They say anxiety is a normal and common trait in children and that it slopes off from their life as they grow older. There are good chances that your child will leave his anxiety behind when he grows old, but the odds are that it might also leave a huge mark on his personality. Parents who have anxious children often turn a blind eye to the impacts of anxiety on the minds of their children. Parents often take it as an off-putting challenge to help their kid get through even the little routine things because he is too scared or anxious.
You might be ready to perform miracles to help your child get into that morning bus, get comfortable in his birthday party or feel all secure in a park because you don’t want them to miss out on things or lag behind.But sometimes, we as parents need to work for the longer run.
Below are some tips on how to deal with anxiety in children:
Anxiety cannot be eliminated, but it can be managed
Even though you desperately want to, but you cannot do the magic. Anxiety cannot be completely terminated, and if it can be then, it surely takes time. Here, you need to make it a point that you cannot put off every stressor or event that prompts anxiety in your child. What you can do is make your kid learn how they can manage their emotions and behavior under anxiety and still function well. As your child learns to do the same, his anxiety will gradually stop affecting his behavior, and it will also ebb with time.
Do not fear their fear
Anxiety is an upshot of fear. Children are afraid of one thing or other, and it is their fear that builds anxiety in their minds. For instance, if a child is anxious before a dance performance, he or she might have the stage fright, or they might be afraid to face the crowd. As a parent, you might sometimes feel the same as your children. You might also be nervous for that stage performance. But the last thing you want to do is to validate their fear, which you might do by panicking in front of them. Make a note of staging confidence and calmness in your behavior so as to influence your child’s notions about their fears.
If you do not look worried to them, they might as well end up feeling relaxed.
Tell them they are going to be okay
Your children’s fear is huge for them, and you cannot set unrealistic expectations in their minds about the same.If your child is anxious about failing a test, you cannot assure them that they wouldn’t or if they’re worried about forgetting their lines in play, you cannot promise them that they won’t.But what you can do is tell them that they’ll be okay. Tell them that it will not be the end of the world if they failed or made a mistake or if someone laughed at them.
You can narrate your stories or examples, and things will eventually get better
As a parent of an anxious kid, you must pay heed to the little details of your child’s anxiety and fears. Talking positively to them and making them strong against their fears are the best ways on how to deal with anxiety in children.